I'm trying harder and harder to surround myself with people who build me up rather than make me feel terrible about myself. And that doesn't just apply to your friends and family. If you think about how often you're on social media, you're probably seeing your favorite Instagrammers more than you see some of your friends! That's why I've started making it a point to fill my Instagram timeline with accounts that build me up. In the week I've been doing this, I've noticed a huge change in how I treat myself! I'm being way more gentle with the way I talk to myself and much more forgiving when I look at myself in the mirror.
The account that's made the biggest difference for me is Khrystyana. She's a model with a totally normal body, and she doesn't try to mask or distort what her body looks like. She's also competing on America's Next Top Model right now! I also love following RozTheDiva. She's a pole dancer and instructor in New York who has amassed a huge following because of how fun and positive she is! (She's known for singing along to the songs she performs and teaches to, which pulls people into her performance and helps them be less nervous when they first start taking pole classes!)
Another great account is TheBodyIsNotAnApology. It's an account about accepting the parts of yourself - and others - that may seem broken or unacceptable. FoodByMaria is all about not being afraid of food and instead having fun with it! Plus, Maria speaks and blogs about suffering from bulimia and is very open about living with an eating disorder.
And the #bodypositivity movement isn't just for women! NotoriouslyDapper is an author, model, dancer, blogger and activist whose goal is to encourage men to accept and embrace their bodies. He's also one of the personalities behind the account EffYourBeautyStandards!
Social media can stress us out and show us "perfect" people who seem to have perfect lives. But if it's playing such a large role in our lives, we need to take ownership of the messages we surround ourselves with. Start curating your timeline to help you feel your best!
'PARTING WiTH PERFECTION' Farewell Perfection, that I will never be Long expedition was to follow you around I was at point A and you already at the B I thought you were so close, yet never have been found. I married you, because you sound like heaven. It planted hope that pushed me to the edge. For you committed I the deadly seven So only we could have the light on worldwide stage. So tailed I you but face of yours was hidden Why hide you, show me please at last The gossip whispers: "seeing you forbidden " For I would not be let to everlasting rest , For if I touch you heart mine decompose For if I smell you friends will turn away With that in mind, divorce shall I propose For living heart, good friends, and peace to stay. --yours, KhrystyAna /// perfection? An idea. An obsession. Let's forget it all together to only turn to the only reality. No dream can be more perfect than reality. Go have a gorgeous day, perfect you ....;)))) --- photo by @coryphoto
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Becoming an author has been the most surreal thing I have become in this lifetime. To write something about your life while sharing your own personal experience is life changing. As some of you may know, my book has been nominated for a NAACP Image Award. This recognition is a honor on so many different levels. It helps solidify the message I’m preaching to the world. Those of you that have read my book. Please leave me an honest review on what you think about it! I would love to hear you opinions! Thank you for all your love and support on this journey of mine 😊💯🙌🏾 #ModernGentleman
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Both of these images are of me. The left is about 10years ago. And the right just under a month ago. I remember being proud of how skinny I looked during this shoot. And how now people call me fat when I’m just happy to be alive and grateful for this body I call my home. I used to seek approval from the fashion industry and tried to be “perfect”. I thought if I looked like “her” (an unrealistic beauty ideal), I’d be happy, successful and loved. All I found was failure (because you can’t change who you are) emptiness (because my time and energy was being used up trying to achieve something completely self absorbed and shallow sacrificing doing things I loved) and unhappiness (because no restrictive diet or abusive exercise feels good) I share my experiences with you all because if you are feeling like I did there is another way and those recovering from EDs you’re not alone. The best thing I ever did was focus on looking after myself and being the best me I could be. Seeing value in who I was. The impact I could have in the world and people around me. Trying to give, instead of focusing on myself, my image and needing approval from others. And accepting that I am meant to be here just like you, and we were all created to be imperfectly perfect. I started Investing time into self-care, doing things that made me happy. Listening to my body and mind and nourishing them both, without guilt. That is 10years all squished into a lil insta caption but it did take time but it was soooo damn worth it. Because of what I went through My dream has always been to get self-care (mental, emotional and physical wellness) education into schools. And I’ve started that, but I also wanted to create something for adults that still needed a safe space that’s judgement free to go on a positive journey of self love and that’s why I created @everyBODYwithiskra I don’t have all the answers and I’m not ever trying to change anyone or tell people to do this and that etc. But I felt the need to create this as I wish I could have had this when I was struggling and if I’m able to use that to help even one person even better. If you’re triggered by this post please contact @neda ❤️